Is this the summer you give up body shame?
The summer in Australia is just around the corner. I am asking you, instead of the self-flagellation that summer can bring, instead join me and practice self acceptance and compassion. I wonder how many of you do the thing where you actively avoid mirrors, photographs and any reflections because you cannot deal with what we will see?
This kind of thinking plagues so many of us causing crippling self doubt and sucking the joy right out of life. This is not only a young woman’s issue. I don’t believe for a moment that this just simply goes away with time. I know that women well into their midlife and well beyond are grappling being ok with their physical appearance.
I really wonder what would happen if we all decided to remind ourselves and each other, that we are absolutely perfect, the way we are? Changing your mindset about your body takes a deliberate approach. Here are some of my tips for getting started:
- Accept where you are with this. Be honest. It is ok to struggle with self acceptance;
- Develop a supportive phrase that you can write and say to yourself that reminds you there is no ‘better’ body than another for example: ‘ I am whole and beautiful in my body, right now’ or ‘My physical appearance does not define me.’
- Spend time getting to know your body. Literally explore it, clothed, unclothed and meet yourself with less judgement, more curiosity and kindness;
- Remind yourself that your body is part of the way we experience the world, interact and love. Be grateful for the opportunity to experience life through your body (as opposed to focussing on what it looks like to others);
- Notice when you compare yourself to others or to a certain ‘standard’. When you notice this in yourself, gently direct yourself back to right where you are with a sense of compassion, lightness and love.
Would you like one-to-one support with this or something similar? Consider a life coaching session to get your mindset in the space of acceptance and compassion. What a gift. Love Katie